Why do guys speak and interact like "guys" ? (for the most part)
Most often guys talk about the SAME things. I'm sure there are girls who over hear guy conversations and just roll their eyes because of the conversation topics. Why do guys talk about the same "manly" things all the time such as sports, business, money, cars and women? Moreover, why do men tend to talk with certain tendencies and slang terms? One of these tendencies is the lazy, and I just don't care enough attitude.
From my experiences with friends, guys do like to "conform" to guy talk for two reasons. The first is that they want to feel like they are a part of the group and that they can associate and relate to everyone else. The conversation topics mentioned above are easy ways to relate and converse with other males. Most guys have a fair amount of knowledge on these topics, unlike shopping, cosmetics and tv dramas. (not saying that this is all females talk about) The second reason males like to talk about the same "manly' things is so that they can look "cool" infront of females. No males likes to be embarrassed or not "one of the guys" when there are girls around. Each male likes to show off his masculinity and toughness to females. This reason covers the point of, why do guys not cry openly?
Males behave and use certain speech acts to feel connected to other males. Being able to swear and use the same slang makes every male feel like they are a part of something. Knowing inside jokes and stories plays a large part in a group of males. From my experience, when a male misses out on a joke or event, it makes that male feel more excluded and not as close to everyone else.
Here are a couple short clips I found on youtube about men being "men"
Video 1: This is a video trying to explain why guys don't cry and possible reasons why is it or isn't allowed.
Video 2: This video is just a collage of clips, where guys reveal situations in which they have cried. The video puts the interviewed males in some really awkward situations, when they are questioned.
One question I have after writing this blog is: do females even find it attractive when males act all friendly in their own group? what about when guys act tough?
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Hah! Funny vids, Adam! Especially the first one. Actually, I kinda agree with what the woman said in the first video. Tearing up at 'strategic' moments will usually make girls go 'awwwww'. But then again, 'strategic' is subjective.
ReplyDeleteAnd girls also usually talk about ourselves; no, not in the narcissistic way, but rather the how-i'm-feeling, whats-going-on-in-my-life way. It's part of the whole in-group thing, like if you share such things, its because you're in my in-group and I would expect you to do the same if you think that i'm in your in-group too. Do you guys never touch on such topics?!
-Huimin